It’s happened to us all.
Once I had a friend who asked me for advice about this. I told him to say, “I have enough friends. I want to be closer to you.”
He didn’t believe me. And he was friend-zoned
A few months later, he met a hot engineering girl. The same situation arose. This time he did what I told him and gave her the ultimatum:
Date him, or move on.
Well, they got together. She considered not having him in his life, or hooking up with him. She chose well.
I have many female friends. but not one single "Close" friend, if you thought you were, sorrybto quash your hopes..i'll explain why as time goes on.. And having friends is fantastic. This article is for you men who wish only to be said girl’s lover, and nothing more. If you will be truly happy, and not secretly yearning for her romantic interest, then be her friend. If not, follow this guide.
Have Boundaries
Women respect men with boundaries, and clearly defined relationship goals. You have to know what you want, because she’s not going to teach you how to seduce her. She doesn’t know how. All she knows is what she feels, and a guy who is willing to walk away, to lose her forever, is a man who knows what he wants.
Be The Leader
Women need to be led. You must be the guy that defines the structure of your relationship. Once she takes and holds the lead, gives the orders and ultimatums, you can kiss your seduction goodbye.
Does this mean you can’t be friends with women? Not at all. But if you want to sleep with her, or be in a romantic relationship, then being friend-zoned is the absolute worst thing that could happen. Digging yourself out of that trap is nearly impossible.
So never let yourself be friend-zoned with a woman you’re attracted to. Just say, “No thanks.”
Many men think that by befriending the hot girl, she will eventually succumb to their charms. And while this happens sometimes, it’s very rare. but for now..ASSUME IT NEVER FUCKING HAPPENS! ESPECIALLY IN ABUAD.
Use Social Proof and Pre-Selection
If you’re in the friend-zone already, the best way to escape it, is to let her see you dating, or attracting, other attractive women.
Go to a party and approach a few women. Get a phone number in front of her. Make her jealous. Date other women. Post a picture of you and a few pretty girls on Facebook. And when she starts to talk about these girls, usually in the form of some tease, or passive aggressive insult towards them, or yourself, say, “So you’re a little jealous huh? Well, you had your chance.”
Don’t be mean, or strict in this regard. Just playfully tease her about it.
This is why it’s critical to learn game, and have an understanding of female attraction mechanisms.
A man who is willing and able to walk away, shows that he has options. No one girl will absorb his time with friendship, without paying for that time with sex, affection, or at least a really good time.
If you’re friends with a girl without the sex, then she has to play some role in your life. She has to help you with your problems, or act as your wing girl and make you look good to other women, or take you to parties, or do something other than just be attractive in your presence.
If she doesnt bulge after all these...brother..walk the fuck away! No girl is worth more than a month of your time! no matter how fine! believe that there are other girls out there!
I’m a pretty introverted guy,but i like to confuse people, so nobody knows my true nature,but at times I like to be alone. I have women in my life, girls who we intimate , but I have NO close female friends. Not that I don’t have the option. but when it gets to that level i cut it off, It’s just that, most of them don’t stimulate me intellectually, not enough to give them my valuable time. Sure I’ll go for strolls sometimes, or to a party, but I have a much more interesting time when I hang out with men. We can do man things. With women I like to do, “with women,” things. I talk about different things with women, I interact with them differently than I do with men, and it’s not that it’s better or worse. It’s just different. I prefer to be with women romantically.
I like to flirt with women. I like to be healed by women. I like to share my passion and energy with women. But I don’t like to be just friends with women. Not many. I can’t stand sexual tension, and if sexual tension remains unresolved, it can turn to frustration, and lead to a negative experience. This happens when either she likes you more than you like her, or vice versa.
I’ve got a long list of women I said, “Thanks but not thanks,” in fact it just grew recently to, in regards to the friend zone. But I also have a long list of beautiful lovers who when given the choice, decided to try dating me.
My last words to you guy..yes you've spent time together, talked about everything, shared everything, but she doesn't want to date you? gently walk away, it doesn't mattee whether you've got massive feelings, or shes the finest or sexiest or shit, she aint worth you, walk the lonely path till you one who's ready comes your way! if along the line she regains her senses! good! if not..good! you couldn't care less!
This lifestyle can be lonely, but I’d rather be honest and lonely, than lying and frustrated.
Have standards for yourself. Have dignity. Know what you want from a girl, and draw your line in the sand.
And to you N.U,nothing but hugs and kisses!
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